An important rerun from a few months back.
For those ladies out there considering their first time out in public, please fear not! You can do it, just do your homework and relax. Here are my three rules, the 3 Be’s.
Be smart. Don’t walk down a pitch dark street. Don’t go into a biker bar on your first outing. Park close to the mall and/or in a well lighted area. Basically, be as smart dressed as you would otherwise. Just be aware of your surroundings and exercise general rules of safety any woman would. It’s just common sense.
Be appropriate. Wear clothes for the occasion. Don’t wear an evening gown bowling. Dress as other women do where you are going. Wear clothes for your body type. Don’t try to squeeze into that favorite dress of yours if it’s tight or shows off some of your male features. Dress for your age. That doesn’t mean you cannot be stylish. But if you are a 56 year old girl like me, don’t wear what the teenagers are wearing. Dress your age. This is an outfit I wore for an afternoon of shopping. Just another businesswoman out shopping.
Be confident. Smile! Be happy. A recent sign I saw says it all, a smile is the prettiest thing you can wear. People in general are attracted to happy people. This is supposed to be fun. Enjoy it. This is a very important rule. If you look nervous, regardless of how you present yourself, people will notice you and they will react negatively. Walk with good posture, be proud! Click those heels. Let that purse swing delicately from your shoulder. Move those hips. Own it. Remember, you do in fact, belong. You deserve the respect of others. You are a valued human being with all the rights of any other person. You are hurting no one. Walk into that woman’s clothing store and watch the SAs light up! Order a girly drink at the bar, cross those beautiful legs and take it all in. Engage in conversation with the other female customers about a dress or a necklace you both may be looking at.
I speak from experience. I do not and never will “pass”. I don’t like that word, don’t believe in the concept. What I do believe in is if you do things right, people, people all self-absorbed in their own lives, won’t notice you. And that is a good thing! Once you gain that confidence, then you can go about being noticed (in a good way), wear that pink dress, try those 4” heels, but build that confidence first. Go get ‘em ladies!