Big difference. I frequent a popular CD forum and read all kind of things, some I can relate to, some are touching and frankly many are simply silly, a few creep me out. One thread got me thinking. Someone posed the question as to what everyone wears while lounging around the house. She went on to say she was wearing a nightgown and pantyhose (and in typical CD fashion, she referenced the specific brand of pantyhose as well as a very detailed description of the nightgown). And that is the classic example of “wearing women’s clothing”. There is not a single woman on this planet that would wear a nightgown with pantyhose.
I have certainly had my time wearing articles of women’s clothing, often in combinations that made zero sense. I now dress as a woman would. There is a tremendous difference in the two. If you want to go out in public, if you want to be accepted by mainstream society, if you want to feel like a woman does, then “dress like a woman would”. Do not just throw on things because they are female attire.
If you have a woman in your life, observe her. If not, take a look at the many women that walk our planet. Make mental notes. Be observant. What are they wearing? How to they combine different things? Is their blouse completely tucked in or partially tucked in the front and loose in the back? What is the length of their jeans and what type of shoes are they wearing with those jeans? What are they wearing over their sweater? Woman generally do not like wearing pantyhose. They generally go barelegged in the summer.
When I watch TV, I notice different types of necklaces (Hallmark movies are great for this) and how they work and with what. I pay attention to how things are combined. I am a sponge, trying to make up for the years I was aching to be, but not able to be for many reasons, the woman I have become.
This also goes for makeup. Watch, observe. Go to a makeup store and seek advice. Ask questions. Learn. Watch YouTube videos. Don’t walk out looking like Mimi from The Drew Carey Show (Google it if you are not familiar).
If you take this seriously, meaning you want to be treated by the public as a woman, then show some constraint and dress like a woman. Invest in your presentation, and I mean in terms of time, study, observation, learning and the use of good judgement. Slow it down. We all know the thrill of this (and there is an undeniable thrill to this), but do it right and you’ll reap much greater benefits. Just because you are wearing women’s clothing does not make you a woman. There is a difference. Dress like a woman, ladies!
PS For anyone new to Kandi’s Land, we operate under one basic premise here. This is not simply about “crossdressing”. I am not transgendered as typically defined. I consider myself bi-gendered. This is about presenting myself to the public (going out in public is THE key component of me) as a woman. That means I wear generally what a woman would wear in the situation I place myself. So, you will see me in dresses, skirts, blazers, sweaters, jeans, leggings, basically the broad pallet of what real woman might wear to go shopping, to the museum, to church, etc. In other words, this is all about dressing like a woman. Many other blogs cover wearing women’s clothes and do so much better than I do.