So Kandi, any further, future desires?
Good question, not sure how to answer it. My female life has evolved and will continue to do so. My 100% desire every time out is interaction with others. My favorite way of doing this is attending an event. Therefore I love the art museum parties, the NCMC concerts, any place I can bring my absolute A game and know I will be recognized for having done so. It’s my addiction. I will continue to seek more and better public events to become a valuable part of.
My continued involvement with certain organizations may lead to more interesting things. I’ll probably get more involved with A Prom to Remember. I may get more involved with one of my theaters. I meet people all the time that may lead to more interesting things for me to get involved with.
If you are asking if I sort of have a bucket list, I’ve already done quite a lot. The one thing, the single thing I would give anything to do would be to be an actual bridesmaid in an actual wedding. Going to happen? Probably not. But the thought of being completely immersed in that experience thrills me to no end! The dress shopping process, both for the bride and the bridesmaids (one cute outfit)….the bachelorette party (another cute outfit)…..the rehearsal and dinner (still another cute outfit)…..the spa visit getting my hair done, nails done and makeup done……the wedding……the reception.
I’m not sure where this will all go. It certainly depends where my life in general will go. My pecking order will remain unchanged regardless: husband, father, friend, provider, athlete (broken down right now) and then Kandi. If I were allowed to be completely selfish, to not consider anyone else in my life, I would do everything I can to be more feminine (mostly involved in the expensive, permanent removal of all hair) and I would dress daily. I would do all of the things one does during their day, dressed. But I would then, at some point in each day, get cleaned up and back to me. But being selfish is not who I am and doing so would dramatically change that pecking order.
I am very happy right now. I am in a good place. Both sides of the puzzle that is me are in good places. My family is doing well, I have solid friendships. I am able to get out as Kandi frequently and do so in ways I enjoy. Is it perfect? Of course not, but it’s pretty good. Having both accepted Kandi and allowing myself to be happy (a big key) has made all of the difference.